I’m writing this post targeted at GUYS since Naomi is going to write one for girls tonight. ^_^
And please don’t ask me to introduce Naomi to you (although you are interested to 顺便 know me too!) hahaha…
In a slightly different tone from Naomi’s, I will be talking about a topic that I’m quite good at “What girls really wants from guys“. Just like girls, guys too have the type of girl they want to date, and those that they want to marry.
^ The girls we want to marry
^ The girls we want to date
The Ideal Woman that every man expects………..
- She will always be beautiful and cheerful. She could marry a movie star but she wants only him.
- She will have hair that never needs curlers or beauty shops.
- Her beauty won’t run in a rainstorm.
- She will never be sick, just allergic to jewellry and fur coats.
- She will insist that moving the furniture is good for her figure.
- She will be an expert in cooking, cleaning, fixing the car, painting and keeping quiet.
- Her hobbies will be mowing the lawn and washing dishes.
- She will hate credit cards.
- Her favourite expression will be “What can I do for you dear?”.
- She will think you are a genius and look like her favourite movie star.
- She will ask you to go out with the boys so she can get some housework done.
- She will love you because you are so sexy.
My job is business development and technical consultanting, and that trains me to be very practical and down to earth about things. If you want something, you have to have something to offer. But be realistic!
Although looks gives us an added advantage, but all they really expect is neat. You don’t have to have those bodies to attract the girl of your dream!
Girls put on make up because guys are attracted by what they see.
Guys tell lies because girls are attracted by what they hear.
But a wise girl will listen to what you have to say, and see what you put into action, before deciding if you’re someone she can trust to depend on, or live with, for the remaining years.
What girls want from guys
All that a girl really want is a guy who would.…….
- move their hair away from their eyes and then kiss them
- hold their hands in line at the movies, making other girls jealous
- sing to them at random moments
- let her sleep on their chest
- protect her from all the cruelties of this world
- dance with her in the rain and smile at those watching
- make her laugh without even trying
- take her to the park and put his hands around her waist, giving her a big bear hug all the time
- never afraid to say “I Love You” to her infront of his family and friends
- argue over silly things then then make up
- kiss her at midnight on new years and sit with her to watch the sunrise
- stay at home with her on a friday night just to help her make dinner and watch a home movie together
- tell her she is beautiful, just the way she is
- be there for here when she needs him
- treat her with respect
- support her through the good times and bad
And most importantly…. be her best friend and never break her heart!
The Five Must Knows for Guys
[list type="bignumlist"]
-
A man must know how to cook
Cooking is no longer a chore of a woman. Guys today are expected to cook alongside their wife. (And it’s pretty romantic too! Don’t you think?) They used to say “to capture a man’s heart, you must first conquer his stomach”. However in this 21st century, guys wearing an apron with the ability to whip up a sumptuous meal is especially appetizing to girls.
-
A man must know his flowers & chocolates
Flowers and chocolates are a necessity in any relationship. No matter how unwilling she is towards accepting your flower, prepare to be crucified if you miss sending her flowers on an important occasion. Know what each flower and its associated color means will definitely be a plus point!
-
A man must know geography
Girls cannot stand it when they are the ones making all the decisions for dates, and the guy is always bringing her walking in circles (especially when she’s wearing heels!). Therefore, before you go out on a date with your girl, do sufficient research on the area, such that in the event that the dinner place is close, you know of an alternative and where are the convenient stores just in chase she needed to buy something for that time of the month.
-
A man must know tolerance
Guys must understand that girls can be temperamental at times and it’s simply not their fault. No matter how ridiculous the matter is or how unreasonable she is, the guy should always try to understand his girl’s habits and try to work things out nicely. Be a gentleman, apologize first even if you are not in the wrong. This simple gesture goes a long way, and she will appreciate you even more!
-
A man must know his girl
This is the most important aspect in maintaining a relationship! Girls are very observant. Remember the details. As the saying goes, it’s the little things that build up! When you become more observant and remember even the slightest detail, it is easier to give her surprises that she’d love you for!
[/list]
28 Golden Rules to maintain that relationship and attracting her
[list type="bignumlist"]
-
Be honest
Honesty is the best policy. Relationships are built on trust.
-
Be real
Don’t put on a fake front and act like something you are not. Truth will see the light.
-
Be gallant and gentlemanly
Hold the door, pull the chair (not her hair!), & etc…
-
Be conscious of your appearance
Neat hair, ironed cloths, and no BO! She probably spent 1 hour dressing up before meeting you. Please at least return the respect.
-
Be punctual
or better yet, early for all dates.
-
Be a MAN!
Take the lead and be the one who initiates. If your girl has to plan your date, you’re a LOSER!
-
Be generous
Never go on dutch on the first date and special occasions
-
Be patient
Girls tend to take a longer time the bathroom.
-
Be sensitive
It is what guys lack, and all girls look out for.
-
Be a good listener
Sometimes when girls talk, they just wanted someone to pour their heart out to. They weren’t looking for a solution
-
Be tactful
Refrain from making unnecessary negative remarks (e.g. you’ve been eating a lot lately?)
-
Be observant
Take note of what she might take an interest to and surprise her with a small gift every now and then. Girls love surprises and it keeps the spark going.
-
Be knowledgeable
Know enough to make her go WOW! But don’t make her feel stupid talking to you! It’s a fine line.
-
Be humorous
It’d help them forget all the stress and enjoy being around you. Humor results in happiness.
-
Be respectful
Never belittle her opinions and taste. When she says no, respect it.
-
Be sweet.
like offering to send her to her doorstep.
-
Be faithful
Never drool over other girls in front of her
-
Be caring
Send her a text every few hours to make sure she’s fine. NOT STALK HER AND SEND HER AN SMS EVERY TWO MINUTES!
-
Be helpful
Run errands for her, such as return her library books, when she’s really busy.
-
Be her “galfriend”
Do gal things with her once in a while, such as offering to go shopping with her and carrying her shopping bags.
-
Be amiable
Get along with her family and friends.
-
Be accommodating
Petty fights are inevitable, but try to give in whenever necessary.
-
Be aware of your priorities
Never rank her lower than the first place on your “to-do” list. Not what you dirty minds thinK!
-
Be expressive
Always tell you that you love her and hold her hands when walking with her. Be proud of her!
-
Never be forgetful
It’s important to remember all the dates of those special occasions (e.g. anniversaries, etc). If you want to go the extra mile, remember her parents’ birthday and drop them a call at home on those days to wish them happy birthday. It goes a long way.
-
Never be clueless
Always be aware of how your girl is feeling and act accordingly. It’s always nice to have a shoulder to cry on.
-
Never be too controlling
You don’t own her and she doesn’t need a second dad.
-
Be there for her.
Isn’t that what a relationship is all about?
[/list]
Do drop me a comment to let me know what you think about my recommendation and check my TWITTER (@darrensim) for your daily dose of my love quotes!
My Reads
It may seem like a LOT of things to remember, but it’s really just about their own upbringing. Some guys just have it in them, and for the girls who think such guys are hard to find, maybe you don’t know them enough to reveal these qualities they may have hidden.
Even if some qualities are missing, they can be learnt and applied, one by one. Make a conscious effort at the start, and in time, they will come naturally.
It’s worth doing all these for the one woman you love. I know a guy who jokes by insulting his close girl friends, and that’s DAMN annoying. Not funny, in other words. But I also know he’s a nice guy, and meant no harm. A healthy joking squabble or insult is fine, just know when and where to draw the line.
Girls, if a guy is doing something you dislike or disagree with, tell him. (Guys, if she doesn’t, learn how to read body languages!) He won’t know unless you say it. They may have all these qualities, but they aren’t telepathic.
Nice one Darren!
Well written!
However it seems that there are quite a number of guys out there who do possess most of the requirements you wrote about, but still have yet to find a girl to show it all to. Sad, isn’t it?
On a random note, here’s an interesting question: Who do you think should make the first move? The guy or the girl? And why?
I look forward to reading your reply! I’m sure it’ll be very interesting.
Hi Shahrin, you have just given me inspiration for a new topic to write about..
Thanks for the encouragement. ^_^
omg i think it is super relevant! even if the guys in society nowadays so have it in them, some of them might just feel that its uncool to show it out! and this is really a perfect reminder as to what guys and girls are really looking out for. Thanks so much!
Gotta agree with you on some of the points there. But still, as always, most of these “i want in my partner” lists tend to be pro-female. Yea it’s not wrong to dream and want something from your partner, but girls, you gotta think that sometimes, guys will just be guys. We will care, love and show our concern in our own ways. Sometimes girls will think that the “unromantic” guys are too reserved and unexpressive. So girls, don’t complain when you boyfriend doesn’t hold your hand, doesn’t say “i love you” in public or push your hair aside to kiss you. We don’t live in a fairytale. Chivalry is dead.
Well i think what all guys and girls want in a relationship is respect. It takes real courage to sacrifice
Some guys date girls who wanna feel like princesses but most will settle down with queens who know the meaning of reality.
Just my 2 cents. Great article tho.